I wanted to name this “the importance of being earnest”, but the talk really wasn’t about being earnest; it was about vulnerability. It’s one of those topics that you might touch upon in your soul searching, but oh-so-gratifying to see shared with the world from via a TED talk.
In my marriage, I deeply want to be MORE vulnerable. Each day I want to lay down my self and allow my own self concept to continue forming in the context of our marriage being an “US” rather than an “Heather + I”. I recognize that much of my self damaging behaviors in my early adulthood were affiliated with my own journey to find validation and worth at the end of my own choices, but frankly, we can’t find it there. We have to find it in being authentic and real and vulnerable to ourselves and others.
She had so many good points… This feels like a talk worth watching regularly. We happened to watch it over dinner together and it was the best ‘Dinner & a Movie’ date we’ve had in a while (in my opinion) because this topic has the chance to make a difference in our lives and in our world.
But enough about what I think we already know I like it because I’m posting it on the blog! Take a few minutes to watch it… and then let me know what you think in the comments below!
By the way, I just want you to know that I am thankful that you are my friend, and that I’m glad I can be yours.